Song of Solomon 1-4

Song of Solomon 1-4…The gift of marriage.

The Song of Songs, also called “Canticles” or the “Song of Solomon,” has a history of controversy. It is clearly a song about love between a man and a woman, including the physical dimension. Indeed, it celebrates the joys of the marital relationship. Some have questioned whether it belongs in the Bible. It does not seem to be spiritual enough to be included in the canon of Scripture; indeed, some of its intimate language seems downright embarrassing. Early Jewish expositors decided that the Song was really applying romantic love to the relationship between Yahweh and Israel. According to them, the marriage of the Lord and his people was set forth in the book as an allegory. Early Christian expositors continued to look at the book allegorically, seeing in it a symbolic description of Christ’s love for his church, and hers for him. But, while certainly the Song can be applied in a general way to the relationship of Christ to his bride, there is no reason to believe that such a symbolic application is the book’s primary focus.

One of the worst influences of pagan philosophy on the early church was the idea that sexual love is always tainted with evil. Perpetual virginity came to be prized more than marriage. This departs from the Bible, where virginity is a gift to be given to the beloved on the wedding night. Many in the church came to believe that sexual expression, even in marriage, is sinful and should be endured only for the sake of having children. Naturally, the Song of Songs, which celebrates the joy of physical love, had to be reinterpreted by those whose view of sexuality was so narrow. According to the Bible, however, the marital relationship in all of its aspects, including the physical, is a great gift of God. It is not to be despised, but enjoyed. Genesis 2 explicitly says that it was “not good” for the man to be without a wife. From the biblical perspective, marriage is good, including sexual union within marriage. Therefore, we should not be surprised to find a book in the Bible that celebrates this benefit of God’s grace to his children.

Judges 13-15

Judges 13-15…Manoah’s wise wife.

It is a great gift to have a Christian companion to go to for counsel and comfort whenever your soul is depressed. Manoah had married a wife who was full of wisdom. She was the better one of the two in sound judgment. She was the stronger believer, and probably that was why the angel was sent to her. She was full of faith, and so when her husband fearfully said, “We shall surely die,” she provided an eternal perspective.

Single men, look at the character of the woman before you pursue her. Is she growing spiritually? Does she have a good reputation in the church? Does she fear the Lord? This is what should be most attractive, not outward beauty.

Proverbs 31:30

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

Conversely, there are many warnings in scripture about selecting a wife without consideration of spiritual matters. The man who does this will undoubtedly regret his foolishness:

Proverbs 12:4

“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.”

Speak to your elders/pastors before initiating a relationship. Seek counsel from those wiser than you. Ask for accountability from those who know you best, and pray for direction, wisdom, and purity, because “an excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” ~ Proverbs 31:10.